**Disclaimer**: The advice I’m offering here is excellent but still pretty general- you need to add to it or subtract from it until you customize it for your particular life situation. If it backfires, the woman in your life may simply not be ready to deal with your realization and I DO NOT take any responsibility for the results. My advice, but your life gentlemen. Deal? Thanks in advance :)
The first step is exactly the same as in Part 1 of the series where you deal with a girl you’ve dated less than a year and haven’t proposed to yet. I’ll make it easy and copy it over instead of just linking to it :) The first step is to throw the ball immediately in her court by finding a perfect situation to ask her about her sexuality. I would say many relationship experts and perhaps psychologists would agree that all straight women are at least bi-curious, and at most latently lesbian. You need to get her to admit she’s either very bi-curious, had a girl on girl experience or even briefly dated another girl. Once you get her to admit it (use alcohol and maybe even girl on girl porn if needed), tell her that you would never want to trap her away from experiencing that side of her even if the two of you went all the way and tie the knot. Throw in a little speech about how this is the age when it’s more important to be fulfilled and self-realized than anything else when pursuing lasting happiness, and finish off by saying you’d never stand in her way of achieving all that. At this point, your girl should be overcome with emotions- positive ones that leave her more vulnerable and open-minded.
This is where the second step comes in- the confession. Now, we are talking here about a girl you’ve been with for a long time; if you already proposed as well and got her a beautiful diamond ring to seal the deal, this makes the gravity of your confession greater than that of a black hole. This is where I’d like to go back in time and suggest a special step. I call it Step 0.5- a step you may have to take before that Step 1. No matter who you are, how much you make, or how fit you look- you’re a man (right?). When your girl fell for you, she fell for the definition of man as you wrote it on a daily basis by living your life the way you did so far. She gets to know the kind of man you are, and consequently what she can expect from you. Here is a major question you have to ask yourself to determine if you need to take that special Step 0.5:
*Are you the kind of confident, totally sexual alpha man who she could even remotely expect to confess to her that he’s a straight confident guy who has a strong attraction to trans-girls and wants to satisfy that part of his life no matter which genetic girl he wants to marry? Do you frequently walk around the house naked in front of her (no matter who you are or what you look like naked)? Do you make it a matter of fact you watch porn even though- generally speaking- she satisfies you? Do you have strong beliefs opinions about something and you don’t yield no matter what she says (every man should hold at least one thing dear, sacred and inalienable)? Do you ask for oral and demand at least a handjob if you don’t get head? Do you throw around sexual innuendos like it’s no big deal?
If the answer to most or all of those is no, you need Step 0.5. This step involves spending a few months of slowly and stealthily doing all these things on a regular basis. Not too little that it seems as accidental, and not too much so that she clues into what you’re trying to do. Before she knows it, she’ll see you as that guy; you know, the lady killer, the irresistible bad boy, the guy who can make threesomes happen at a drop of a hat and still make it all nice and clean to the parent teacher conference and the kids’ soccer games. Also, she’ll see you as a guy who can be straight and confident and into trans-girls all at the same time; a guy who can sleep with a trans-girl, let her sleep with a genetic girl, have a threesome with her and the trans-girl, and still keep it together for a solid long-term relationship and marriage. When you have that going, then simply confess and then confidently put all her worries to rest.
Now, don’t forget- the final piece of the confession puzzle here is to keep your proverbial shit together. Be open and honest with your girl about when you’re seeing a trans-girl; conversely, have her tell you when she’s meeting a genetic girl. Work out ground rules and stick with them no matter what. Don’t become a trans-girl chaser, and don’t let your girl become a chaser either- it’s juvenile and degrading for two loving adults who want to tie the knot. Sexually and romantically, always make sure she knows who comes first- the two of you. This is an unalterable hierarchy- period. Too tough? Good, it’s supposed to be. Remember, no great thing worth having in life comes easy to anyone out there. Remember this, modify the approach only slightly to fit your own life situation as best as possible and get it done :)