But wait, before you do bring her over for a Sunday brunch, consider a few very important things that may help you make a checklist to help navigate this huge life decision. So, pay attention please- ok sweeties? ;)
First off, did she say on the first or the second date that she only dates guys who are completely ok with her being trans and will have no issues introducing her to their families? Even as a trans-girl, I have to say that's a red flag. Earlier on in my blogging career, I wrote that depending on what part of transition a trans-girl is in, her sex drive, her desire to experience many partners and her wish to discover her feminine sexuality might be very strong altogether. This means that, even if she really likes you, she may inadvertently turn you into a good friend while she continues to ,meet other guys, or she may simply bust out in flames saying you are pushing too much commitment on her and limiting her and then she'll break up with you. Either way, you will risk everything trying to get her to jive well with your family for what turns out to be no good reason at all. You may be left single, down and with lots to explain to your family- no matter how tolerant, accepting and modern they may be. They may realize she's trans instead of genetic, they may be OK with her, but then not OK with you. Mom might worry that because you like trans-girls, she may end up having a grandchild that's adopted so goodbye family line. That's a potential ouch right there...
Another possibility is that you are dating a trans-girl who is gorgeous, completely passable to all but Brazilian plastic surgeons haha, but it costs- and a LOT. Time, money, effort- you name it. Oh, and perhaps eventually not just on her part, but on yours too. Even I am guilty sometimes when it comes to distinguishing between needs and wants in terms of beauty, fashion and so on; after all, many genetic girls are exactly the same. Nevertheless, genetic and trans-girls who cannot balance this with the needs of other parts of their life will find it difficult to have family, two cars and a detached home in the suburbs- unless a major reevaluation of priorities and lifestyle is made. Again, your mother and father want you to put your money towards being somebody with a place you bought, a nice car you bought and closet full of suits ;) That gorgeous girl you're thinking about introducing to your family may start asking you if dating her will somehow make all of that disappear from your life, or never appear in the first place.
Finally, and this may be the most important, make sure you know that very few trans-girls go well with large, tightly connected families and big groups of long time friends. Many of us had to deal with difficult situations and life circumstances during and even after our transitions. This makes us a bit anti-social, slow to trust and open up, bad with crowds and especially with groups of people we don't know, but who have known each other for years. Yes, families are those types of groups and while becoming one of the pack is tough for most people, it is ten times tougher for trans-girls.
So there we go, dearest gentlemen. This wasn't easy for me to write, in no small part because it happens to be self-critical in small doses. Still, I think it's very important and I wanted to get it out of my head and into the open for people to talk about and truly take seriously when considering a relationship with a trans-girl. Take heart, figure out what you want and what matters most to your happiness, and then go make it happen :)